How Much Pain Will It Take?

How Much Pain Will It Take?

“In spite of warnings, nothing much happens until the status quo becomes more painful than change.”

                                                                                 ~ L.J. Peter

 Why are we so resistant to change?  Change challenges us to think in fresh ways.  Change challenges us to revisit past patterns – to break those patterns.

To stop the treadmill and walk out of sync for a while.

We must evolve from where we were to where we are going to be.  And it is not always clear where the there  – is.

Facing the unknown churns up emotions: fear of the unfamiliar, anger at discomfort.  What is going on?  What should I do?  Why is this happening?

How is your status quo?

Are you at ease, feeling fulfilled and creatively challenged at work?

Is your financial house in order?  Bills paid on time? Debt-free?

Making enough to be self-sustainable?

How do you feel? Are you tired? Energized? Clear-headed? Focused?  What do you make of the human shape you see in the mirror?  Does it show a thriving human specimen?

How is that human being interacting with family? with work colleagues?

Are your relationships loving and supportive?

Are you lonely? Isolated?

Pain.  Do you recognize it?  Are you curing and conquering it?  Or, numbing it with paralyzing distractions and excesses:

fantasy games and novels and television

vicariously “living” through Facebook

wandering the mall or the Internet

eating and drinking with no awareness of hunger or thirst

sleeping and sleeping some more, rationalizing your life away…

blaming others for your paralysis, your lack of motivation

Put pain to work in your life.  It is there to draw your attention to a dis-ease in your life that requires you to CHANGE, to show up differently, to go boldly down a different path.

Move past the pain and feel the joy of returning to the leading hero that is YOU.

Who??? Are You??? Living Your Truth

Whoareyou.7.7.16Go ahead – answer the question!  Who??? are you?

Male. Female.

Son. Daughter.

The layers of being pile on:

Student.

Athlete.

Artist.

Funny.

Serious.

Adventurous.

Pragmatic.

Ordered.

Messy.

Outgoing.

Shy.

Open.

Opinionated.

Active.

Reactive.

Bold.

Serene.

Best friend.

Partner.

Husband. Wife.

Parent.

Etcetera. Etcetera. Etcetera.”

But the who IS important!  As the layers of identity pile on, our sense of self can become buried beneath the layers.  The more external influences on our lives and the more we live – the more multifaceted our who becomes.

Our experiences shape our who, but when we are out of balance or overwhelmed, we may find it harder and harder to be clear on who we are and if we are still living OUR truth.

Checking in on YOUR Value base from time to time will confirm for you who you are and WHAT is YOUR truth.

What is important to you?

Family?   A certain life style?   Beauty?  Health and wellness?

Security?  Generosity?  Self-expression?

Popularity? Laughter? Inner peace?

Professional or artistic achievement? Recognition?

Completing projects? Existing self-sustainably?

Honesty? Trust? Walking your own talk?

There are times in our lives when we are clear on what our inner voice believes and holds as truth.  We readily “feel” what is our truth – in the depths of our being.  Our gut speaks to who we are.

At other times, times of stress and transition: the death of a loved one, a move to a strange city, the quest for a new or a first real job, the beginning of a new relationship

 we find it harder to clearly live OUR truth.

It is rough stuff to go on when a human connection has been severed due to death.

No longer a child?

No longer an active parent?

No longer a wife? No longer a husband?

Too “busy” to walk the talk?

What is stopping you from getting to the pool, swimming the  laps, trying the new recipe, setting aside time to practice the guitar, having some fun with the piano?

A new companion is challenging your values? Asking the whys of what is important to you?

Are you standing your ground, living your truth?

Or, are you rethinking the whats of what makes you you?

Re-evaluating, learning more, evolving: yes, that is part of our growth and key to our development as thriving human beings.

But, if the demands of a negative relationship, the challenges of accepting and living through the stages of grief or moving on to a new professional phase – or a new town – is making you question who you are….

Isn’t it time to tap into your own intuition?

Take a walk in the woods.  Set aside time for a meditation practice. Write down, sing, strum, close your eyes and – be – YOU.

Return to the peace of living YOUR truth.

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