The unexpected. It happens. It takes you by surprise. You are in momentary shock and your inner voice can only come up with something useless to say, under the unimagined circumstances.
What was your “unexpected?”
A failed test?
It’s your first day at the new job – and the new job is not exactly what you had in mind? You’re supposed to do that? Know what? Stay how late?
Your roommate wants out of the lease?
A few weekends ago my “unexpected” came in the form of a boulder face. A carefree family hike to the summit of Mt. Washington, the highest peak east of the Mississippi….. I have stamina. I am pretty darn fit, but, uh, I thought we were hiking, you know, walking with hiking boots, to the top. On the Ammonoosac Trail that meant “scrambling.” Translation: hand-to-hand climbing rock-to-rock. Okay, no ropes were required, but this hike that I was now into mile two or three of had “unexpectedly” turned into a more emotionally challenging ascent than I had imagined from the comfort of my air-conditioned New York City apartment!
How we handle the “unexpected” is what makes the difference:
between failure and success,
between not graduating and graduating,
between giving up and adding to a skill set,
between paralyzed inaction and problem-solving,
between walling off, giving into fear and doubt; and remaining curious –
hand-by-hand, step-by-step continuing on the trail.
How do you handle the unexpected in your life? Consciously? With curiosity and self-awareness?
The “unexpected” – it will present itself.
The choice is ours: Wrestle with emotion. Sleepwalk. Retreat.
Or, observe. Hear, see the lesson.